I have to make comments about what Krystine Munoz said below
Utilitarianism is the theory that actions are deemed â€œrightâ€ if they benefit the majority. Identifying as a lesbian, before coming out to my family and friends, I tried to mask my feelings for the same-sex. I forced myself to date men because I couldnâ€™t fathom the thought of coming out to my family. Receiving backlash and possible abandonment was frightening and I didnâ€™t want to put my family through the hardships of having a child who is gay.
In essence, I practiced utilitarianism because I believed being heterosexual would be better for the majority– my family–, rather than deciding what was best for me. Millâ€™s principle of Utility states that an action is permissible if and only if there is no other action available to the agent that would have had better consequences. The choice to mask behind heterosexuality was not permissible because the consequences were presumed, rather than concrete. Fortunately, once I decided that it was my life and I deserved happiness, all the assumptions of abandonment and backlash disappeared, and my family was extremely accepting.
Benthamâ€™s Felicific calculus is an algorithm that calculates the degree or amount of pleasure that a specific action is likely to cause. When applying it to my utilitarian moment, the intensity of the pleasure was not intense at all and the duration didnâ€™t last. I was uncertain about my choice and so forth. My family was effected, however the tension, resentfulness and lying subsided once I was true to myself.